Your goals deserve a guide that can match your gifts.
Coaching & Practitioner Work for Gifted Adults
Giftedness isn’t about being “smart.”
It's about the way you experience the world. Always making connections, asking the next question, seeing several layers beneath the surface. It's the curiosity that makes your mind feel like a roaring fire when considering a new idea, while everyone else moved on hours ago.
It's feeling things more intensely than the situation seems to call for, and learning early to hide that for fear of being told you’re “too much.”
It's feeling like you could be successful at anything you choose, but having the hardest time choosing anything and ending up making progress on nothing.
It's caring deeply about how your life feels, not just what it looks like from the outside. You refuse to settle for less, sometimes at great personal cost, even when you can't quite articulate what "more" would look like.
It's loving who you are, while also wishing the world didn't make it so hard to be that person. The intensity, the depth, the questions nobody else is asking, these aren't problems you want to fix. They're you. You want to stop carrying them alone.
If you've never had someone in your corner who actually understands what that's like, that's what this is for.
What you’ve been dealing with
You feel constantly misunderstood. You say something and watch it land wrong. You explain yourself and still feel unseen. You've gotten so used to translating yourself for other people that you've almost forgotten what it feels like to just be understood without effort.
You hold yourself to standards nobody else around you seems to share. The gap between who you are and who you know you could be weighs heavily on you. When you fall short, you don't let yourself off easy.
You've learned to make yourself smaller to keep people close. The full version of you, the intensity, the depth, and the pace of your mind feels like “too much” for most people. So you edit, you soften, and you leave the most interesting parts of yourself out of the room just to avoid watching someone pull away.
You've never quite found where you belong. Whether it’s your family, your friend group, your workplace, or your city, there's always something slightly off. Like true belonging is not quite available no matter where you look. You can feel like a literal alien at times, observing others without being able to relate (and vice versa).
You want to build something extraordinary, and a conventional life path doesn't interest you. This isn't arrogance or entitlement. The standard template of success (steady job, predictable milestones, comfortable enough) lacks the meaning and aliveness your crave. You want something more YOU than that, even if you can't exactly name what that is yet.
You have a deep sense of justice and you struggle to let it go. Unfairness bothers you deeply. You can't easily compartmentalize the things that feel wrong, whether that's in your relationships, your workplace, or the wider world.
You feel small things more intensely than others. A tone of voice. A micro-expression. A moment that didn't go the way you hoped. The sensitivity that makes you perceptive and empathetic also makes ordinary moments feel momentous in ways other people don't seem to experience.
You're unmatched in the ways you want to connect. Intellectually, creatively, and in depth of conversation, you've stopped expecting to find it and started just managing the loneliness and lack of real felt connection.
You question everything, including the things you're not supposed to question. You genuinely cannot accept an answer that doesn't hold up. This has made you sharp, independent, and occasionally exhausting to the people around you who just want you to go along with things and “not rock the boat.”
Conventional advice almost never works for you. You've read the books, tried the frameworks, followed the systems. And mostly they fit other people, not you. So you end up having to reverse-engineer everything from scratch, which is exhausting when you just wanted someone to have a useful answer.
You can feel the capability to design your life exactly the way you want it. You just don't know what you want. You have options, but the paradox of choice causes paralysis. Having infinite opportunity and high standards is it’s own kind of stuckness.
You carry it all alone. Because you don’t have people who can hold it with you. So you keep figuring it out yourself, the way you always have.
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“Well-being implies more than simply getting by and making do. You are not the type who can comfortably exist without the meaningful growth and hard work that continually tests your high potential.”
- Dr. Mary-Elaine Jacobsen, The Gifted Adult
What is Giftedness?
Giftedness is an often misunderstood and under-represented experience in modern society. Under 2% of the population are estimated to have giftedness, and most don’t even know it. Conventional perspectives associate it with childhood achievement, IQ scores, or academic acceleration. But for the adults who live with it, giftedness is something far more personal and far more complex than any test score - it’s a way of being that we cannot and would not change but must learn to navigate within.
There is no single agreed-upon definition of giftedness, even among researchers and experts. But there is a recognizable bundle of traits that generally appear in tandem: the intensity, the depth, the insatiable curiosity, the sensitivity, the drive toward meaning, the feeling of being perpetually out of sync with a world that seems to be operating on a different frequency.
In my practice, I think of giftedness as this co-occurring set of characteristics that creates an experience of life different enough from the norm that the individual requires a custom path and specialized resources to achieve the fulfillment they crave. In my practice, I provide those specialized resources so you can walk your path with the witnessing and support that you deserve.
I do not require a formal diagnosis or IQ scores to work with me.
If it feels like I'm speaking directly to you, that’s enough for us to get started.
“You’re an intensely curious seeker, determined to become more than what you were yesterday.”
- Jacobsen p. 128
Gentle Waves #2 by Roger Disney
How working together can help you
One of the most significant things that happens when we work together isn't a technique or a framework. It's simply the experience of being in a space where you don't have to shrink, explain yourself, risk being misunderstood, or wonder if you're too much.
That experience alone is something many Gifted Adults have never had before.
This is a place where your intensity is expected. Your questions are welcome. Your contradictions don't need to be resolved before you walk in the door. You can bring the parts of yourself that feel bad, wrong, too different, or not good enough, and examine them with warmth and curiosity instead of shame.
From that foundation, we can go anywhere that matters to you.
Topics I help explore:
Making decisions from your own truth. Learning to trust your inner compass instead of over-relying on logic, other people's expectations, or what you think you “should” want.
The parts of you that feel like too much, or not enough. The aspects of yourself you've hidden, suppressed, or been ashamed of. We look at them together, without flinching, and welcome them back to the table with open arms.
The big existential questions. Why do anything at all? What does a meaningful life look like for someone like you? The questions that so many people ignore but that you won’t. We dive into the deep end together.
Loneliness and connection. Actively exploring how to find and build spaces where you don't have to be anyone other than yourself.
Positive disintegration and self-actualization. Shedding the default programming that was never yours to begin with and building something more true in its place. This is hard work, but there’s nothing you’d rather be doing than becoming more YOU.
Authentic self-expression. Uncovering what you actually want to create, say, BE, and put into the world…and working through whatever has been blocking it.
Money and livelihood in ways that feel deeply aligned. Helping you build an approach to earning and spending that fits who you are and what you value so you can spend your days and your life using your gifts and not worrying about survival.
Your unique needs as a gifted person. Your nervous system, your social requirements, your relationship with stimulation and rest, these are different from the neurotypical profile that most coaching and advice is based on. We get specific about what you, specifically, need to function at your best and how to build a life that provides it.
This isn't therapy. It's sacred time with a thinking partner who already speaks your language, and who has done enough of their own work to understand you in a way most others can’t.
“This is not a homecoming, since this home has never before existed. It is the creation of a home.”
-Alice Miller, The Drama of the Gifted Child
I was identified as gifted at age four when I wouldn't stop asking questions and started making connections that surprised the adults around me. From ages five to thirteen, I attended a gifted and talented school and I felt almost supernaturally alive there. I was stimulated, challenged, and met. It felt effortless in the best possible way.
When that environment ended, I spent years wondering why everything suddenly felt so hard.
High school and college brought a kind of quiet grief I didn't have language for. The ease was gone. I was a square peg grinding myself against round holes, accumulating shame and self-doubt I didn't know how to name. I assumed this was just what growing up felt like. That the aliveness I remembered felt like something I'd lost for good.
I did what people expected me to do: I pursued an ambitious, impressive path and landed a dream job as an analyst for a Major League Baseball team, the kind of role that looks exactly right from the outside. You might recognize it from the movie “Moneyball” (how glamorous!). What I didn't expect was how hollow it would feel. It wasn't me. So I walked away and started over, much to the surprise of everyone in my life.
That's when I rediscovered my giftedness.
Every word I read on the subject landed differently than anything else I'd encountered. For the first time I wasn't trying to smooth out my differences to fit a mold. I was learning to see them as the very things that made me who I am. Identifying myself as neurodivergent gave me permission to stop outsourcing my wisdom to external sources and start listening to my own internal wisdom.
For the last five years I've spoken about giftedness in person and online, building community with people wired like me. What I kept noticing was a stunning lack of resources designed specifically for gifted adults. No one to validate that the differences were real. No one to help translate them into a life that actually fits.
That's what I do now.
I didn't have anyone to hold a mirror up to my giftedness and help me find my way. Now I get to be that person for my clients!
Trainings Certs and Specialties (TCSs if you will)
Level 1 Coherence Therapy Practitioner (in progress)
CPTSD and Somatics-informed practice
5 years working with gifted adults individually and in community
27 years navigating life with giftedness
Note: I am not a therapist or licensed mental health professional. What I offer is depth-first coaching and practitioner work where your giftedness is at the forefront. I work best with clients who are also in therapy.
About Ethan
Coaching and Practitioner Work for Gifted Adults
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Testimonials
"I've been working with Ethan and it has been life changing. I am accessing a new wealth of vitality that I did not know was possible."
— Coaching Client
"He helped me gain clarity on what I value, what stands in the way of living the life I desire, and equipped me with the tools to connect with myself in new ways."
— Coaching Client
"I am stepping into my authentic self that I had always secretly hoped was still there."
— Coaching Client
"You're the first person who's my age, looks and sounds like me, and is speaking about real inner turmoil I've kept private my whole entire life."
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"The process of piecing together the story of my life has become so sacred and life altering that support from a trusted witness has become invaluable."
— Coaching Client
Working With Me
We start with a single 60-minute session designed to get into the weeds as quickly as possible, but without commitment or risk for you.
If it feels like what you've been looking for, we go deeper together. My 3-month package is where the most significant shifts happen. Twelve sessions of dedicated, custom work where you go beneath the surface, build real momentum, and start living the difference.
Single Session — $175
3-Month Package — $3,000
Book your first session below. If it's right, you'll know.